Chat At crossroads with hobbying...what should I do?

[hangul99]

Thanks for sharing your journey...and yes, there's more on the bucket list to check off so I guess I'm not quite done yet

You may recall some of the advice you gave me way back when I first joined this forum. Looking back, I've come a long way since then. I remember being so caught up with my 'honey'...I was thinking about her all the time (like everyday) and would be so depressed whenever she took her annual trip back to China. She's still one of my faves but I'm in such a better place now. She's been in China for several months now and while I do think about her from time to time, I'm not 'sad' at all. It's a long journey and I guess each of us continues to learn and adapt along the way.

Having a regular go away is great. You get to check out her co-worker that youve always wanted to see but where afraid of the drama it would cause. Lol!

 

[OG_funguy]

Having a regular go away is great. You get to check out her co-worker that youve always wanted to see but where afraid of the drama it would cause. Lol!

LOL, you and I have way too much in common my friend...did that every time she went back. Not trying to be mean or anything but I hear so many stories about her co-workers and bosses that it's natural to be curious.

 

[Deleted member 64273]

Thanks for sharing your journey...and yes, there's more on the bucket list to check off so I guess I'm not quite done yet

You may recall some of the advice you gave me way back when I first joined this forum. Looking back, I've come a long way since then. I remember being so caught up with my 'honey'...I was thinking about her all the time (like everyday) and would be so depressed whenever she took her annual trip back to China. She's still one of my faves but I'm in such a better place now. She's been in China for several months now and while I do think about her from time to time, I'm not 'sad' at all. It's a long journey and I guess each of us continues to learn and adapt along the way.

It's very easy to lose your head and heart in this hobby. But, after a while, compartmentalizing becomes easier and even second nature.

 

[Dongo]

It's very easy to lose your head and heart in this hobby. But, after a while, compartmentalizing becomes easier and even second nature.

If you get to know the other person, I mean the truth about them, if you enjoy the sex, love their company and get an understanding of their situation, hopes and aspirations it is easy to get caught up in a relationship.
It is most likely going to end at some point, but in the interim, depending on the type of person you are, being there and the "giving and getting" takes on a value of its own and it feels great to me. I have had 4 MPA long term relationships in 25 years, all fantastic, all ended, but all involved are still friends of mine.
We get one life, the pleasures we choose are our decision, the people that we get involved with along the road are not always looking for a "forever" relationship, but an experience of mutual attraction, mutual pleasure and someone to be there when they call for some company or need you, or want a day at the beach.
Civilian relationships are usually not like that. After you pass the honeymoon phase, they are more of a dependancy and business deal than two people seeking the best in life.
I am not suggesting that we go into every spa or SP situation thinking that the girls are open to this, but believe me some are.
Discovering these people isn't easy, lots of sessions and conversation but remember.... even a blind squirrel finds the odd nut.

 

[OG_funguy]

If you get to know the other person, I mean the truth about them, if you enjoy the sex, love their company and get an understanding of their situation, hopes and aspirations it is easy to get caught up in a relationship.
It is most likely going to end at some point, but in the interim, depending on the type of person you are, being there and the "giving and getting" takes on a value of its own and it feels great to me. I have had 4 MPA long term relationships in 25 years, all fantastic, all ended, but all involved are still friends of mine.
We get one life, the pleasures we choose are our decision, the people that we get involved with along the road are not always looking for a "forever" relationship, but an experience of mutual attraction, mutual pleasure and someone to be there when they call for some company or need you, or want a day at the beach.
Civilian relationships are usually not like that. After you pass the honeymoon phase, they are more of a dependancy and business deal than two people seeking the best in life.
I am not suggesting that we go into every spa or SP situation thinking that the girls are open to this, but believe me some are.
Discovering these people isn't easy, lots of sessions and conversation but remember.... even a blind squirrel finds the odd nut.

Very insightful and looks like you and I have similar experiences and outlook. Glad you've shown that it is possible to have a long term relationship with an MPA as so many members on here don't believe it's possible. And you're right...discovering them is not easy and it does take a lot of conversation

 

[krayjee]

Having a regular go away is great. You get to check out her co-worker that youve always wanted to see but where afraid of the drama it would cause. Lol!

LOL..That's how I lost Perly . I was banging her co worker Jenny at Melody Wellness while she was away in China for 2 months. She was okay after she came back but a week or so later she found out all about Jenny and me from other girls and cut me off. I told her why can't I see other girls if she was fkn every other guys every day. She said it was her job and she wouldn't mind if I see other girls but not Jenny. Well..she was right in a way.

 

[OG_funguy]

LOL..That's how I lost Perly . I was banging her co worker Jenny at Melody Wellness while she was away in China for 2 months. She was okay after she came back but a week or so later she found out all about Jenny and me from other girls and cut me off. I told her why can't I see other girls if she was fkn every other guys every day. She said it was her job. Well..she was right in a way.

Haha...too bad

Yeah, I'm playing with fire right now too. And two of them are faves. If they both cut me off, I would be truly sad and it would be a huge loss.

 

[hangul99]

Haha...too bad

Yeah, I'm playing with fire right now too. And two of them are faves. If they both cut me off, I would be truly sad and it would be a huge loss.

Remember, when one door closes another one opens. If you lose one or both it frees you up to find replacements.

 

[Hangdai]

Remember, when one door closes another one opens. If you lose one or both it frees you up to find replacements.

I think the thing to do is just carry on and not really worry about it.

It’s so true what Hangul99 is saying, too many times, after a loss, or more truthfully, after a heartbreak,
I’ve ended up finding another situation which presented itself to me, that not only surprised the crap out of me,
but instantly made me forget my previous doldrums.

Honestly, I’ve been so lucky in this hobby, I have to remind myself not to dwell on the mistakes of the past.

I guess the trick is, just let it happen, when it happens.

 

[OG_funguy]

I think the thing to do is just carry on and not really worry about it.

It’s so true what Hangul99 is saying, too many times, after a loss, or more truthfully, after a heartbreak,
I’ve ended up finding another situation which presented itself to me, that not only surprised the crap out of me,
but instantly made me forget my previous doldrums.

Honestly, I’ve been so lucky in this hobby, I have to remind myself not to dwell on the mistakes of the past.

I guess the trick is, just let it happen, when it happens.

Hopefully, it doesn't come down to that. I've already lost a couple of faves due to retirement. And I've been very fortunate to have found these two...when considering everything, I really don't think I could ask for more. Sure, they could be younger and hotter but that would be asking too much.

 

[Mbc]

Call all reviewers here and get together for a chicken wings and beer and socialize in person, share knowledge, etc and after that all go for a spa just for change as a group vs individual experience
Or watch Tesla stock invest in it and if you make money you know where you will spend it that is my 2 cents.

 

[SJRich1973]

Call all reviewers here and get together for a chicken wings and beer and socialize in person, share knowledge, etc and after that all go for a spa just for change as a group vs individual experience
Or watch Tesla stock invest in it and if you make money you know where you will spend it that is my 2 cents.

Are you suggesting a mini convention Well I guess it has to start from somewhere. Look at all those Comic Con these days. They have grown significantly, even got serious fans and followers.

I encourage and I will entertain the idea. But for sure it will take time and maybe we will not even get there...How about start with the name first for the sake of putting some smiles on our faces? The Shakers, Sliders, Fuck Fest, HE Con, etc.

This is the part Japan culture stands out! They will put their ideas into action and make it happen. If it does not work they will just laugh and have fun!

@kl_funguy: Maybe you have found your new calling!

 

[OG_funguy]

Are you suggesting a mini convention Well I guess it has to start from somewhere. Look at all those Comic Con these days. They have grown significantly, even got serious fans and followers.

I encourage and I will entertain the idea. But for sure it will take time and maybe we will not even get there...How about start with the name first for the sake of putting some smiles on our faces? The Shakers, Sliders, Fuck Fest, HE Con, etc.

This is the part Japan culture stands out! They will put their ideas into action and make it happen. If it does not work they will just laugh and have fun!

@kl_funguy: Maybe you have found your new calling!

LOL, I would be receptive to the idea. To protect our privacy, we could use stage names like that movie...Reservoir Dogs with Harvey Keitel.

I mean...seeing KJ and Ursus together would already be worth the price of admission (unless they are one and the same).

An alternative to chicken wings & beer would be an open spa like Club Dynasty.

 

[OG_funguy]

Call all reviewers here and get together for a chicken wings and beer and socialize in person, share knowledge, etc and after that all go for a spa just for change as a group vs individual experience
Or watch Tesla stock invest in it and if you make money you know where you will spend it that is my 2 cents.

It's actually not a bad idea. I'm sure many guys would be more open talking about the ladies in person as opposed to writing reviews on here...I know I would.

 

[TheKWguy]

It's actually not a bad idea. I'm sure many guys would be more open talking about the ladies in person as opposed to writing reviews on here...I know I would.

I enjoyed this thread alot, but you got a midlife crisis thing going on. I've been there man just take my advice and everyone elses.

get 1k in 20's and 50's from the bank and follow my schedule

11 am Walkin to an asian mpa in scarbs, like the first one that you can find that is within 10km of a mcds on google maps.
3 pm do your appt for a perla gal, pick one you think you'll like and book in advance
7 pm go to your SP incall, you pick based on budget young hot asian or terb agency gal

after a good binge you'll have a fresh perspective

 

[OG_funguy]

I enjoyed this thread alot, but you got a midlife crisis thing going on. I've been there man just take my advice and everyone elses.

get 1k in 20's and 50's from the bank and follow my schedule

11 am Walkin to an asian mpa in scarbs, like the first one that you can find that is within 10km of a mcds on google maps.
3 pm do your appt for a perla gal, pick one you think you'll like and book in advance
7 pm go to your SP incall, you pick based on budget young hot asian or terb agency gal

after a good binge you'll have a fresh perspective

Haha, no way I could do that...I mean physically. And that kind of binge is definitely not for me anyways.

 

[TheKWguy]

Haha, no way I could do that...I mean physically. And that kind of binge is definitely not for me anyways.

You will be able to and it will be exciting. Stop trying to find the meaning of life on massageplanet, just go fuck some gals and call it a day

 

[Hangdai]

You will be able to and it will be exciting. Stop trying to find the meaning of life on massageplanet, just go fuck some gals and call it a day

This place is too addictive.

Why is that?

 

[TheKWguy]

This place is too addictive.

Why is that?

if we are going to be serious: the whole peter66 thing that has been going on for almost 2 years now is one real good reason to move on from here.

 

[Dongo]

if we are going to be serious: the whole peter66 thing that has been going on for almost 2 years now is one real good reason to move on from here.

That is for sure bro. These obviously personal fights go on ad nauseam ! Waste of bandwidth and reading time.